Life ... Your Choice

How should one live his life ?

One way,
Enjoy everyday as it comes, go out for party, stay chill, no heavy talks, not getting into serious thinking and just live happy daily.

Second way,
Think about life, think about people around you, try understanding them and also yourself from a third person's perspective, understand their emotions, be there without their explicit need to say so, do things to make them happy and get their pure love and happiness in return. Unwind yourself sometimes over the weekend to some disc etc, take some drink just to feel high and different. Help your friends and peer in all possible manner to the last possible extend. Think about the life which you are leading and where it is heading to. Think about the world around you and understanding the cause and effect of various characteristics displayed by people around you.

By lengthening the latter type, I do not wish to make a stronger statement about the 2ndtype, but just wanted to touch the various aspect which makes the second type. I am sure you would have well understood the different personalities I am talking about.

I belong to some extend to the second half and so was trying to understand, which one seems to be a better choice.

In today's world, where everyone is back biting everyone, where happiness can be bought with money, where success means bringing your peers down( by any means), where friends are meant for only going out for party or movies or shopping, where parents are more of a ATM and where children are more of a "display model" to their guests, where you go to a counselor when you have problems with your wife/husband, where you have a professional spiritual guru to deliver a lecture on the meaning of life, where shopping kills boredom, where boredom is all around, how do you live a life in this environment.

I am sure , most of you will say that KISS is the best policy. The first type of personality is the right one to choose, just chillax and make money and spend it and enjoy life.

I am an idiot, and probably thats why belong to second category. I feel that, we humans are a little different from animals because we are in better position to express our emotions and understand each other(through language etc) and should not keep this gift in a locker and live like animals wandering in the jungle,with not much affection for each other.

I feel very strongly about being sensitive about other people, their feelings and emotions. Because if you do not respect their feelings and emotions, you will find that in a matter of time, they will become emotionless and will loose their innocence, will loose their freshness of life, they will live just the same way all the time, be it happiness and joy because they will find no one around them. But at the same time, if they do not become equally sensitive to you, you will start behaving like them and then you both will end up being insensitive and emotionless. How different is this behavior from a mentally week person, who is made to live in an mental asylum. And who knows how many of them would have come to this stage because of the insensitivity of the environment in which they live.

I feel, if there is at least one good, a very genuine person in your life, with whom you can lay trust without any second thoughts, and who is there to help you, be with you, you will most likely never attempt to commit suicide, because that person will give you a ray of hope, a feeling that world is not all that bad. But he can do this only when he is sensitive to your feelings and emotions, when he devotes time and effort in understanding you, when he thinks, in isolation about the people around him and how they live and think.

Even in everyday life, would we like a person who is genuinely loving you, caring for you and your feeling or you want to just be someone for one night or dance be with other person for something else. I am sure we all would go for the former one, but former ones cannot be created with the Type 1 personality I have mentioned. You need deep thoughts and serious focus to be someone whom everyone wants but no one becomes in this present world.

I am not saying be Swami Vivekananda, or Buddha, be a normal human being but be a human and show humanity. Don't let the corrupt and commercial world around you make you another victim of its mass murder of human innocence, be a human, who has a heart which still feels ...

A Lucky Draw Of Happiness !!

Today I was talking to a friend of mine, who was telling about this friend of her's who has a very strong personality. For ease, lets call my friend as S and her friend as R.

So R was saying that when she is with R, she feels so great, R is so enthusiastic and excited about S , she gives so much attention to S that makes S feel so special. But when R is not with S, she will not even call once or she will make some plans of her's without informing S. Or she will cancel her plans with S, without even informing her.

So, I was trying to understand why R behaves this way, as she would be hurting S. But S says , since R makes her enjoy when she is with her, so she does not care about the other times when she ignore her other times.


This made me think, is S right in her thoughts or is she just becoming a victim.

I am not here to analyze S's thoughts, but just trying to understand the cause and effect of this kind or relationship.

What was special about Hitler? He was an excellent orator, had a charismatic personality.

Why are American so good in marketing, because they show such enthusiasm and attention to their customers that it makes their customers feel special.

This is what is the kind of personality R exhibit. She bring out her strong personality with the masses( say S and others)and she gives them so much attention when she is with them, that she leaves a long lasting impression in them, and successfully makes them her loyal friends(fans), who will be there for her at her beck and call , whenever she feels like, but at the same time, she doesn't have any emotional link with her friends(fans), but her friends feel as strong bond between themselves and her, because of the happiness which they feel when they are with her. So, here itself, there is a mismatch in the equation. One side is emotionally and strongly attached to the other person, and this person R has no emotional attachment with them.

Now, the next problem, or should I say, the reason why R exhibits this behavior. Now R makes a plan to go for shopping. Nobody likes to shop alone, so she will ask her friends(fans), to go shopping with her. Since they all feel so happy being with her, so she will most likely get quite a few no of them, to go with her. So, now all she has to do is to choose them best among the lot and go with her. So, she has solved her purpose of getting one company and thus is able to avoid what most of the people feels so sad about, i.e not finding any company to go out sometimes. So, she is all happy. Now, what happens to the other people whom she asked but didn't go with them. They will feel sad and lonely, and will try to kill time or will try to pick some of their other friends and see if anyone is available and as expected would not find many takes for her plan.

So, what I see here is that R is using people for her own satisfaction and people like S and the likes are her pawn which she always can keep in her pocket and use them at her own discretion. She is a practical woman who's only motive is to think about herself and damm the rest of the world, in a very smart manner.

Can you call people like R, your friends, with whom they can share anything anytime freely and expect a whole hearted reply from her. Or should they keep waiting for the days when R will chose them among the lot of her friends and take them out.

Do you want someone to dictate the happiness of your life or do you want to take command of it yourself and invest your emotions and energy into a friend who can reciprocate the same and doesn't make your happiness a chance of lucky draw among other friends of her?

PS: I have no qualms about R as she is just following the Darwin's theory of "survival of the fittest".