Silence of the man !!

Have you realized lately that you have stopped talking as much as you used to do in your childhood?

At least I have. And it has gone down drastically. And mind you, i am not talking about the crap (that is to kill time only) I am talking about the quality talks. There were times when I used to talk to my best friends and my parents and brother and sister, heart to heart. It was a talk about my life, their life, and the thoughts about the things around us.

It has changed now. I am away from home for last three years; most of my friends live in different time zones, calling my parents, brother and sister has become a ritual 5 minutes standard talk.

In this professional world, I did not find many takers for a deep thoughts talk. You can talk about the new chick in project or neighborhood, or the new bike, or the job offers coming your way. You can talk about Al Qaeda, about NR Narayana Murthy and Government. You can talk about the new movie releases, about the crime in Delhi and now Bangalore too, you can talk about stock market and investments, you can talk about how your company sucks, you can talk about so many mundane things in life, but there are no takers of your personal talks. I am not sure if I am an exception or it is a generalized statement, but I have found in so many chats with so many people and every chat revolved around the same mundane things. So, what happens now? You have to release your emotions, your feelings, and your inner self. Where do you go? Yes, for those fortunate souls who have a dedicated boy/girl friend, they have a person who can provide the solace, but what about others, they are left bewildered, a little helpless, they resort to this new medium called Internet, be it in the form of chat groups, messenger chatting, blogging, forums or surfing topics of their interest.

Earlier the things were not that bad, people used to talk, neighborhood was like an extended families, the whole town would know about each other. A happy occasion in one house would be reflected across the entire street.
Even now if I go to my grandpa's home in village, I see so much buzzing, people chatting, sharing jokes and anecdotes expressing their problems, crying, shouting, even fighting. I see human interactions. Real emotions in their faces.

Come back to my place here in US, I hardly talk with people whom I stay with. Everybody is busy with their laptops, or mobile phones. We just meet for lunch or dinner or sometimes cook together and then back to our laptops. How laptops have replaced humans. You really don’t feel a need to talk. Frankly speaking, I chat more on net than the real life chat. I do want to talk to people, share ideas and view with them, discuss life, discuss issues close to my heart, but again , find no takers. There is a whole lot of superficiality now. People talk you in a very calculated manner and unfortunately you also have to reply in a precisely calculated manner. Talks become so standard that at times you can guess what the person is going to ask next.

No, I am not frustrated but I am sad, I am just telling the truth. And I do not say that all of you would be feeling the same thing, but there is gloominess in the life now. Nobody seems happy, everyone has a pale face, sad story no friends , yet do not want to make friends, share life, because they think its too much of investment of time and emotions, they want to hide their emotions. I don’t recall when was the last time I cried, shouted, or fought with someone. Maybe a decade back. Now anything comes in my life, the biggest tragedy(god forbid), biggest happiness or some height of stupidity, all emotions are just the same, they have no varying degree of emotions, just a flicker on the face and the life is normal. I think people resort to movies to express their emotions, they cry , they laugh , the shout when they watch movies, because its not their emotions, its not their talks, so they can express themselves without feeling embarrassed. Pity, we need reel movies to express our real emotions!!

And this is the same thing happening in any section of society and any relationship, be it parents and children, be it husband and wife, be it neighbors, anybody and everybody.

I hate this living and wish to improve it. I talk to people even if they express interest, on the simple thought that probably they also wanted to talk but couldn’t do the first start, so let me make the first move. Sometimes it is good but mostly I have to go back, people do not feel comfortable talking to you.

I so much wish, I had spent hours talking to great friends and people than chatting with some unknown faces (on a priority basis I am saying). Looks like mode of communication has started to change, now only our hands will talk (chat), we can shut up our Mouth and speak only on special occasions.