Logic over Emotions !!

This was a very sentimental article which I read in WSJ .

A female of the age of 96, is very vulnerable and fragile, but she
still insists on living in a house which she and her husband had build
decades back. You tend to think, it doesn’t make sense for a person of
this age, who tends to have memory loss, who cannot walk properly and
who is really so fragile, that she should live in this house, even if
it means, living alone, than to move with her son, who lives some 6
hours from her place. But that’s where the life takes a turn.

We sometimes, ignore or crush the feeling over logic. We tend to follow
something which seems logically correct, scientifically appropriate and
economically viable. We feel that emotions, feeling make people weak,
they have no place when making decision, they looks good only in the
soap operas.

But are emotions so useless or cheep. No, emotions are the most
important part of any living creature, be it human or other species.
Emotions are stored as an integral portion in our memory and we make
decision based both on logic as well as emotions.

So, coming back to the article, her son had make numerous desperate
attempts to bring her to his place, but all in vain. She had lived a
long life in this place, she knows and remember each and everything ,
every stone, every piece of the furniture and the memories of the
house, her husband , her children, her friends. She has a huge world
inside this, a world which contains almost 70 years of her life.

Does she really care if she falls from the stairs and probably die? No,
she has lived her life with great zeal and doesn’t want to end it with
some pity. She would be happy to die in these memories than in some
nursing house, among unknowns.

This is the power of emotion and feeling. You live a social life and
the emotions are integral part of it. Then why do we hate it so much?
Partly because they have been derided by our TV serials, and more s by
the fact that we do not have a logical conclusion to these emotions,
they make our decision-making fragile, they make us look like an
un-confident person.

I feel, we have, over decades, started to suppress our emotions and just show our creative and logical face to the world and that’s why , we watch so many movies, music, because these movies/music help us cry and shout and scream which we are not able to do in our so-called normal life.

I guess, we have started having a pent up frustration against this world and everyone around us. We tend to look at the most of the negative things, we make very feeble human bonding, which can be broken at the click of the fingers. Its not that we do not talk much, in fact we talk far more than our forefathers, but we do not share feelings and emotions, and its more prominent in the males, because emotions are mostly attributed to the females. The males are expected to be strong at heart and brain and somehow, it comes to holding your emotions to show a strong front.


But , with this career centric life, and desire to do something big, its encouraging more and more people (men and women) to suppress their feelings and show a creative and logical outlook. But it is leading rise to more commotion in our social life, where also, we tend to follow the same dictum as we do in the corporate world.

Its time to do something, to start expressing our self better, and by expressing I mean the quality feelings and emotions, not the melodrama queen types. Else, we will become a closer semblance to the robots, both of them running on some rules and logics like an AI system and the word emotion will be wiped out from our dictionary.